Dating Tips

First dates create first impressions, so it is important to be creative in the planning process. Very often, first dates are an opportunity for a man and woman can express their true selves in creative and exciting ways. There are many creative and romantic things a couple can do on their first date. Some men like to keep everything a surprise from their date until they actually go out, while others like to plan with their partner. It is really a personal decision as to how you approach this. The important thing is that you find yourselves having fun and exploring your romantic potential together.

If you are looking for a neutral place to have a first date, where you both would feel comfortable to meet and talk, a coffee shop is an ideal spot. Coffee shops generally have a very relaxed atmosphere which allows people to sit and talk and that can be the best thing to do on a first date sometimes.

On the other hand if a person goes to a movie on a first date, they basically sit next to each other for almost 2 hours and don’t have an opportunity to talk and get to know each other. If a person does go to a movie on a first date though, it is a good idea to meet for coffee first or even after so that you both have a chance to talk together and get to know each other.

Other first date options may be to go to a dinner ,a museum, a concert, a walk in the park or even go on a picnic together. One of the most romantic things to do on a first date is to surprise a girl with something that you know she will like. Flowers and chocolates generally appeal to most women for instance.

You can learn a lot about a person on a first date with them. If you decide to go out for coffee, make sure to be a good listener and observer and ask lots of questions too. If the coffee talk goes well, plan to extend the evening and do something you both enjoy like go for a walk or go dancing. The important thing about first dates is that you are open to learning about the person you are with and sharing all the things that you are with them. A first date is a mutual journey to discover each other in many ways.

Enjoy yourself and be creative!

Body Language on First Date:

If you really enjoy meeting people but tend to get nervous in social settings, there are a few things you can do to improve your situation. Above all, you must generate a positive attitude about it. If you think of socializing as stressful and difficult, others will sense that and be reluctant to approach you. Transmit confidence with positive body language and facial expressions. Stand up straight-don’t slouch. Make brief eye contact (not a blatant stare) instead of turning away or looking at the floor. If you get nervous, encourage contact and conversation by carrying a prop such as a book or magazine or an eye-catching accessory. Such an item will give others with common interests a reason to come over and talk to you.

Nervous people tend to sag their shoulders, lock their arms tightly around their bodies, stand rigidly, and stare at the ground or dart their eyes around. Confident people have an open stance, make eye contact, and lean toward the person they’re talking to. If close enough, they often show interest by lightly brushing your arm or shoulder to make a point.

Another way to be approachable, even if your heart is pounding with anxiety, is just to breathe deeply and smile. It’s hard to feel negative when there’s a smile on your face. The smile is a universal symbol of friendship and it draws people to you. Smile often and (as the old song says) the whole world will smile with you!

Body language can turn people away but it can also invites them to approach you. Some “do’s” and “don’ts”.

Don’ts:

• Lack of eye contact

• Continual throat-clearing

• Covering mouth with hands

• Tugging at clothes

• Jingling things in pockets

• Fidgeting with accessories or clothes

• Hand-wringing

• Frowning or grimacing

• Stepping backward or away

Do’s

• Steady eye contact

• Smiling

• Leaning toward a person

• Sitting on the edge of a chair

• Periodic hand-to-face gestures

• Moistening or licking lips

• Watching someone else’s mouth as he talks

• Arms at sides, as opposed to crossed

• Brief physical contact (nonsexual)

• Pointing arms, legs, or feet or all of the body toward a person